Circumstances do not control you, you control circumstances by choosing how to react

You are in control

Coaching taught me that I am in control and that my circumstances do not control me. My experiences have no control over me, whether it is an unreasonable father or mother, criticizing girlfriend or boyfriend, demanding boss, lack of money, disease, weight issues, anxiety, it does not matter. I have the power, and I choose how to react. I am in control of my emotions, no one else. I am in control of what I believe, no one else. Is it not liberating to know that you can determine how you feel, no one else, you decide, you have the power? You just need to learn how to trust yourself again, believe in yourself, love yourself.

Coaching will challenge you to ask crucial questions

With coaching I will take you through a process of getting to know yourself again, asking life-altering questions, focusing on what you are capable of, what you deserve, also what stops you from being who you are, what stands in your way of becoming the best you can be. All of this will lead to the ultimate goal – to take control over your life and to be what you set out to become.

You choose how you will react

Circumstances cannot force you to become sad, happy, angry, irritated, passive-aggressive, or anxious. You choose how to react. These choices are based on previous experiences and circumstances, on how you have been configured over time. These choices often lie deeply ingrained in our DNA, enforced by parents, grandparents, great grandparents and so forth. Sometimes you may not even know why you react the way you do. It is easier to blame someone else for how you feel, but in the end you are the master of your feelings, you are the one who decides how to react.

So what can you do?

The first step is to become aware of your emotions. Start noticing how you react in different circumstances. Identify possible patterns. Sense how these emotions make you feel and influence your relationships. Become aware that you are actually the victim of your own emotions and reactions. It is not the other person that makes you feel “sad” or “angry”. Your emotions are the result of your own decision of how to react. Once you are aware of that and acknowledge it, you can work on it.

Mobilize yourself by asking the WHY question

An easy way to get to the core of the reason behind an emotional reaction is to go back being that typical four year old who never stops asking why? Keep on asking why you react in this way until you get to the root of the cause. You will find that behind these negative emotions lie limiting beliefs that have attached themselves to you over many years, robbing you of a successful mindset. In coaching, techniques like Inner Conflict Therapy™, Negative Emotional Therapy™, and Negative Belief Therapy™ will allow you to deal with these negative emotions and limiting beliefs and get to the core root of it.

Take action

I truly believe in the saying that “the proof of the pudding is in the eating”. It is easy to imagine how you will stay calm and not react in the usual manner. It is easy to see in your mind how you smile and walk away. However, it is in the dark and desperate moments that you will need to find your inner strength, those parts that will allow you to act in a way that will make you feel victorious, liberated, and in control.

Believe in the process, believe in yourself

Changing emotional reactions does not occur overnight, so be kind to yourself. Start by acknowledging to yourself that you are in control of your reaction, even though you cannot always control the situation. No one has control over you, no one. No one has the power to make you feel the way you do. Only you can allow them that power by the way you react. It is time to take back the power and take control of your emotions. Stop reacting the way you do, take action. Coaching will change your life, it will show you how amazing you are, not because others tell you so, but because you believe it yourself.